Sex Addiction Cure

While doing a bit of keyword searching I stumbled upon this phrase: sex addiction cure. The real question: Why do people Google for such a thing? There can only be a few answers:

1. To find a quick and easy way out of the sexual addiction
2. To know how to stop acting out
3. To know if there is a true cure

I’m no mental health professional, but it seems to be like losing weight: People want to lose weight, but the things influencing their thinking are flawed. Here’s what I mean: if a person is overweight, you don’t want them to lose muscle mass and bone density. You want those two things to strengthen. Fat needs to be lost. Their eating habits and exercise routines are influenced by industries that are solely interested in making profit. Don’t misunderstand: I am a capitalist, but given my experience with weight loss and addiction recovery, there seems to be a misunderstanding of how the human body works, and the environment surrounding the phenomenon fuels this misunderstanding.

Weight Loss

Over past five months I’ve lost 24 pounds of fat while retaining healthy muscle and bone. How did I do it? Fasting and lifting weights. I fast for weight loss and lift weights only to maintain muscle and bone. The fasts only last for 24 hours at a time, once or twice per week. My weight lifting routine consists of two exercises, twice per week: dead lifts, push ups and variations on those, i.e., dead lifts, squats, snatches, and front planks transitioning to the push up position. That’s it.

I control my weight by eating less. I exercise to only maintain or build muscle and bone. Most people have it backward: They try to eat gain muscle and exercise like a hamster to loose fat. That doesn’t work unless you’re hiking 22 miles a day on the Pacific Crest Trail or mountain biking down the Continental Divide. It’s much easier to eat less than to exercise more. It’s like concentrating on minor things to make a major difference.

Sun Tzu Said

As Sun Tzu said: In war, then, let your great object be victory, not lengthy campaigns. In other words let major things make major differences, and let minor things make minor differences. Don’t set yourself up for failure.

Sex addiction recovery can be a lengthy campaign, but the goal is to live in victory. If your goal is to simply slug it out, you will fail. Weariness scraps to the bone, as useless as a cup of sand to quench a warriors thirst.

Sex Addiction Cure

What does all this have to do with a sex addiction cure? According to Chris Anderson’s new book “Free: The Future of a Radical Price,” today’s younger generation expects information to be both free and infinite. In my opinion the problem is that while information is abundant, human experience, knowledge and understanding is quite finite. In school we’re taught to memorize information and regurgitate it on a test. We mistakenly and unknowingly think that all things are knowable and can be understood. In other words we fail to realize our limitations as humans.

Such as with a sex addiction cure. We don’t have all the answers nor can we predict the future. In fact we don’t really know all the questions.

Questions

Is there a sex addiction cure? Wrong question. Why do you want a cure? Correct question.

A dear friend has taught me, and still teaches me the importance of asking the right questions. Questions are filled with presuppositions. Correct questions are lead by first understanding one’s own disposition. If you’re a sex addict looking for a sex addiction cure, then you’re presupposed to having an instant fix for all your problems. That’s what the addiction gave you temporarily. That kind of thinking can lead to an equal expectation for a cure: instant, magic bullet or where’s the wizard mentality. Dangerous stuff. Couple that with highly sexualized western culture, and now your very desire to get well is tainted by unrealistic expectations. Such a thing is folly and leads to epic failure.

Set yourself up for success by understanding where you are. Take a step back to put yourself in a position to go beyond where you were. There is hope. There is help, but there is no cure. It’s a fight: A war where you must be focused on victory. It does get better, a little easier, and not so Hellish as those first couple of years in recovery. Hope and endure, friends.

Be well,
Damon

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